Marriage Affairs – How You Can Get Rid of Obsessive Images and Negative Thoughts

Mar 17 2011

If you just recently found out about your husband cheating – You must feel an unimaginable amount of pain. Even if you didn’t get all the ugly and specific details – you can fill the blanks alone. It happens to everyone trying to overcome affairs marital. The most common OBSESSIVE images that used to haunt me were:

1. My husband and the other woman hugging, kissing, having passionate sex or any other romantic and intimate scenario.

2. The other woman being gorgeous, funnier, smarter and more charming than I am.

3. My husband looking at her in a way he has never looked at me, or treating her the way he never bothered to treat me.

==>Click HERE if You Want to See How I Survived The Affair and Saved My Marriage<==

If that’s not enough, the haunting and awful images were accompanied by these constant NEGATIVE thoughts: (especially because I was under the impression that we were happy!) 1.“I can’t believe I ever trusted him. Now I can’t even trust my own instincts anymore.  2.”I can’t let him get near me or touch me, can’t even look at him sometimes.” 3. “Did this happen because of me? Because I gained a few pounds? Spent too much time with the kids?”  “Is this MY fault?”

If you decided truly that you want to SAVE your marriage and SURVIVE the affair – You have to put a STOP to these images and thoughts and step out of that dark place starting TODAY!   If you don’t – You have no chance of ever surviving cheating in your relationship.

 

3 Simple Steps to Get Rid of Obsessive Images fast

Step #1 – Let the Obsessive Images Have Their Special Time

It’s not a joke…Set the images on a clock. Decide firmly. Set a time during the day when you have a few minutes to sit down and allow these images to fill your mind completely. This is how you start to take control of your mind again. In any other time of the day – When an image comes to you – Quickly remind yourself that this is not the time for it yet, it should have to wait for the scheduled time.

It’s the first step and it’s a subtle one – You start to control what comes to your mind – and when. It will give you unbelievable strength.

Step #2 – Invite and Welcome Them In

At the special time you set for them – Let the images in. Remember, you are only temporarily allowing them in and it will only be a few minutes of suffering – instead of letting them control your whole day or fighting to banish them all the time.

Step # 3 – “Play” With the Images

If you are able to think rationally, you know that these images have nothing to do with reality. In order to prove to yourself that these images have nothing to do with the reality – You can “play” with them. While you are in that “special time” – Try and rewind them. Treat them like a movie you are watching on r husband and the other woman may have never even hugged once. He may not even know her last name. She could be a boring and unattractive woman that could never be as cute as you are.

To remind yourself of this – play with images. Imagine that they’re just a bad movie you are watching. Rewind the movie, freeze the image, and fast forward it until it looks ridiculous. This will remind you that the images are only a part of your IMAGINATION. It’s not real life.

Next Step – Saving Your Marriage and Surviving the Affair

These are not the only steps that you HAVE TO take if you want to really get over the affair. There are specific exercises that teach you how to control negativity, regain the trust after cheating, fall back in love with your spouse and even achieve a better marriage than ever. I assure you that it’s possible – I managed to achieve all of that and save my marriage after I was sure divorce is the only answer.

If you want to see the book and program that made all of this possible –==> Click Here<==

I now have a better marriage than ever (I hope it stays like this…) and my 2 wonderful daughters’ happy faces remind me how lucky I am every day.
I wish you a long and happy relationship,

 

Lisa

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Marital Affairs – How to Regain the Trust after an Affair

Mar 04 2011

When my husband and I started talking again (and after I let him back in our house…) I felt much better. Affairs marital can really shake things up in a relationship…His emotional affair (that included sex of course) and everything we went through because of it has “forced” us to better communication, talking and rediscovering who we really are and what we need from each other.

BUT – I couldn’t stop being SUSPICIOUS. I couldn’t stop thinking that one day he would betray me again. I was so deeply hurt I couldn’t imagine a day I would completely trust him again. I felt paranoid and every time he was even 10 minutes late I was sure he was having a marital affair again. My mind was racing with haunting images of him with his sexy and young coworker, laughing and drinking wine while hugging and kissing…

==>Click HERE to See How I Survived My Husband’s Affair – Without Counseling<==

Everybody kept telling me – “Once a cheater always a cheater” – That didn’t help either. He seemed to be honest and faithful – but how could I know for sure?

Once I “caught” him on the phone with a woman I didn’t know – and fell into a rage. It turned it was our travel agent and he was planning a surprise vacation for us.I felt guilty about this behavior – but I never forgot that he cheated once already – so I “have the right” to be suspicious.

Trust is the foundation of every healthy relationship. Without it – It can’t exist, love can’t exist physically or emotionally and everyday life becomes an unbearable struggle and agony. Without trust even your self confidence can’t be restored and your feeling of safety is gone.

Sometimes cheating is the spouse’s way to say he wants out of the relationship. But if he doesn’t – and he wants to heal your love and connection – an affair could be a trigger to a BETTER marriage and relationship.

The loss of trust after an affair is the most destructive part of this marital crisis. Without restoring it – It is impossible for us couples to ever move forward after an affair.

How to Rebuild the honesty (After Affairs Marital)

Maybe you never thought about it – but fidelity is not the only thing you trust your partner with. There are more aspects in your relationship. In the “Survive an Affair” program that saved my marriage I learned that there are 5 forms of trust in our relationships: 1. Fidelity (that form of trust is gone right now…)

2. Physical safety – Imagine there was domestic violence. Imagine not knowing if your children will be safe in their own home. Imagin not trusting your spouse in this regard. Sometimes we take this form of trust for granted.

3. Financial security – Managing your house financially takes an incredible amount of trust. Trusting your partner with your financial security is actually putting your life in his hands and sometimes we take this too for granted.

4. Emotional predictability – Is he emotionally erratic? Does he have extreme shifts in his mood? Imagine living with someone like that – It’s not easy. Even a simple conversation can immediately turn to anger with this type of person.

5. Truthfulness – This form of trust is also damaged by an affair.

Basically the first step to regain the trust after marriage affairs is ask yourself – Do I trust him in these other areas? Now you understand that trust is not a black and white issue.  But this is just the first step.

After finally finding the one book that got me and my husband over this affair – I learned the next exact steps to really rebuild the honesty in our marriage.

 

==>Click HERE to See the Book That Saved MY Relationship<==

 

The next steps are:

1. Learning about total transparency and what it means

2. The 5 building blocks for transparency

3. The 10 destructive habits that tear down trust

4.How to get rid of the obsessive and negative thoughts

5. How to heat up our relationship again

I can’t reveal ALL of this Marriage SAVING information because it is sadly copy-writed and not mine to reveal…

But You Can Find Out More if You Click Here – Right Now!

…But I assure you, I am a living proof that the CAN be restored, a relationship CAN be saved after an affair – and even become better that ever.

I wish you a long and happy relationship,

Lisa

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Affairs Marital – The most Critical Mistakes you can Make after Finding out about your Husband’s Affair

Mar 01 2011

When I found out about my husband’s affair I was so shocked I just wanted to pack my things and run. Affairs marital were not even a possible scenario in my life. Without talking to him, without even getting him to admit – I knew right there and then that I could never trust him again and that this marriage was over. I felt angry, stupid, disillusioned, betrayed and my self confidence just disappeared. I couldn’t stop imagining him intimate with someone – much smarter, funnier, younger (of course…) and better looking than me. These thoughts didn’t leave my mind for a second – and I let them take over me and my life almost immediately.

==>Click HERE to See The Book That Helped me Survive my Husband’s Affair>==


These are only some of the critical mistakes I made after finding out about my husband’s marital affair. Now that I am past this, after a long struggle and a long search for the right solution to save my marriage – I know better what NOT to do after an affair. I would like to share these mistakes, hoping I can get you to avoid them and save your marriage much faster and much better (and prevent the next affairs-marital):

  1. Confronting my husband and “ending the marriage” – When you are in your most vulnerable state – angry, shocked, shattered – Your perspective is damaged. This is not the time to make a final decision about the relationship and about marriage affairs in general. You have to acknowledge, in spite of the pain – That there are many things to think about (children, love, forgiveness etc) before you decide to end your marriage.
  2. Blaming my self – Deep inside I immediately blamed my self. I asked myself “is she better than me? Better looking? More charming? Younger? Funnier? Easy going?” – I imagined the other woman as all these things. You must remember that in most cases the reasons for cheating has nothing to do with the other woman. It has to do with communication problems and general marriage problems between you and your partner.
  3. Deciding I can NEVER trust him again – affairs marital do not mean the trust is gone forever. Even it you can’t believe it right now – It is possible to regain trust in a relationship after infidelity – and I am a living proof of it. There are specific steps that have to be taken in order to rebuild the honesty – and it is possible to achieve that and have a better marriage than ever.

==>Click HERE to see how I Saved my Marriage<==

 

I’m not saying it’s easy – but saving a marriage after marital affairs is possible. I’m a living proof of it.

The first step is to avoid these critical mistakes. Avoid negative thoughts, obsessive thoughts, “angry” decisions and impulsive behavior.

The next step is following step by step instructions given to you by an experienced family therapist that has a well known record of saving marriages after cheating. You can find out these steps if you click on the above link!

I hope I can help with my personal experience and I wish you a long and happy marriage,

Lisa

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